I expect that, if there isn't already, there will be much hitting in this happy home. There probably already is, with the parents [and how long will it be 'till 'take care of my mom and dad'?], but...it'll be there.

And I know I can't help her. I couldn't even if she were all about getting the hell gone. I have no contact with her. At this point, I'm rather glad I don't. The last thing I need ever is to get personally involved in anything-at-all involving a guy who embraced Simon Says a little too tightly.

Second, I'd be extremely concerned for her safety. As a mother and wife who is going to school and holding on to a job (if just barely) and raising kids, I'm telling you, doing all that with high school (which allows no flexibility in the schedule), no real education, and an infant at home is just plain not going to work. No one is this cool, not even those for whom sleep is optional. He's setting up minimum performance standards that are way, way the fuck beyond any human operational capacity. It would be like asking a little Roomba vaccuum to be a full-time maid. It can't do that. The problem comes in right about when he figures out he didn't marry Wonder Woman. What do you think the reaction will be from a control freak like this? Not Fucking Good.

But, and this is a huge BUT: You can't help people who aren't willing to help themselves. You can't change people who don't want to change. This is a horrid situation, and it could well get her killed, but if she doesn't want out of it, there's shit you can do. Humans suck like that.